In Corinaldo, in the province of Ancona, five teenagers and a young mother of 39 years old they died while fleeing from a nightclub full of minors where a Sfera Ebbasta concert was due to take place, one of the hottest trap singers of the moment.
It seems that the panic was triggered by a young hooligan who, even stealing a chain from a peer, he would have sprayed a stinging spray which would have quickly made the air in the room unbreathable. The investigators are carrying out the necessary investigations.
The aspect we are interested in highlighting concerns the parent-child relationship. In fact, outside the disco there were fathers and mothers locked in their cars waiting for the end of the concert, while others were inside. And then it begs the question: It is normal for parents to personally accompany their eleven-year-old sons and daughters, twelve and thirteen years old, at the concert of a trap singer who glorifies drugs in his lyrics, disorderly life and uses terminology that is decidedly unsuitable for an almost adolescent audience? And why they do it? Because they no longer know how to say "NO" to their children? Because fathers have stopped being fathers, preferring to transform each one into their child's best friend, ready to satisfy their every desire? Or because they too love a certain type of music and want the new generations to love it? We at Pro Vita asked the psychiatrist Paolo Crepet, has long been very active in denouncing the dangerous degeneration of the healthy relationship between parents and children, with the former now completely incapable of managing their role.
Professor, how much need there is, Today, of the figure of the severe parent capable of saying many healthy "No"?
«It seems clear to me that today we are witnessing the failure of a modern generation of parents and the consequences are there for all to see. Calling them parents is now only possible on a theoretical level, because in practice they are completely incapable of managing their role and their essential educational function. Let's say that many don't even know what it means to develop an educational project. They think that educating is only the school's job, when instead it is the family that comes first, irreplaceable, educational cell".
We are witnessing a reversal of roles, with children imposing rules on their parents, almost forcing them to satisfy their every whim?
«It seems obvious to me. There is a sort of completely unnatural complicity. But parents cannot be friends with their children. For at least thirty years I have persisted in repeating that fathers must be the captains of the ship, they have to drive, be good leaders, you are not servants of their children. Parents must be able to distinguish between good and bad, and they should ensure that their children learn to distinguish what is permissible to do from what is not. Today, however, we are witnessing the paradox of fathers who go to school to beat up teachers who have scolded their child. Something absurd".
It is often the same parents who accompany their children to concerts of trap singers who send negative messages and lead teenagers to consider taking drugs almost legal, get high, get drunk, have sex etc. Instead of warning minors not to follow certain models, fathers and mothers turn into their children's drivers, also giving rise to the suspicion that they are the first to share those messages. As he comments?
«What do you want me to tell you? The truth is that nothing can be said anymore. They have insulted me in recent hours because I allowed myself to criticize trap singers, and I was told that that is music and that they have every right to send that type of message. There is a lot of discussion to then arrive at the most classic of conclusions, that is, it's fine like this. At this point I raise my hands. If everyone is free to do whatever they want, what are we talking about? If the trap singer is free to say that taking drugs is cool, if record companies are free to release trap, if parents are free to bring their children to their concerts, It seems to me that there is little to do now other than resign ourselves to the idea that taking drugs is normal, getting drunk ditto, having sex at twelve is the most obvious thing in the world. I would like to ask: but then what do you want from me?».
There is a direct responsibility of modern society which leads to relativizing everything and making individualism prevail over the need to impose rules?
«The truth is that we in Italy are only good at arguing about everything. There was tragedy in this nightclub? Who said it's Salvini's fault, who from Renzi, some Berlusconi. In this we are like children. We like to argue about chocolate without ever changing a thing about this country except for the worse. When we are faced with phenomena that affect hundreds of thousands of children and their future is in danger, it would be necessary to intervene, but here no one seems to want to do their job anymore. Parents no longer know the sacrifice of parenting. One of my books that was unnecessarily popular was called The No's that help you grow. Today I think that book is even more relevant than ever in the face of the total absence of the Nos.".
Americo Mascarucci
source: https://www.notizieprovita.it/economia-e-vita/caso-corinaldo-parla-crepet-insultato-perche-critico-il-trap-i-genitori-sbagliano/