by Costanza Miriano
In the past few days, those following the demonstration against violence against women, There have been some rumors that in my opinion deserve a serious reaction. Hearing Finocchiaro declaim (to children, moreover) from Rai 3 that men are all pieces of shit..., or Murgia saying that being born a male in a patriarchal system is like being the son of a mafioso, I also thought they weren't worthy of attention either, That, as some illustrious thinkers wrote on social media, starting to respond at this level is like having a burping competition. One could reply with statements of the same speculative depth, like sardines are all short and ugly (and never mind, I know some beautiful ones, like Silvia and Annamaria – sorry Elisabetta Canalis, I have my preferences – but ideology ignores the facts, otherwise maybe she will be forced to change). You could joke like the legendary Lercio (“She gives birth to a boy: Murgia arrested for mafia association"), which in any case is much more laughable than Finocchiaro.
Yet the issue is a little more serious than that. I would very much like Finocchiaro and Murgia, above all, argue with some facts: where would this patriarchal society be? I don't see traces of patriarchy in Italy, but I would say not even in Europe, the continent without fathers – literally, since they don't have children anymore; without fathers also culturally - a society without fathers has been praised since '68, even psychoanalysis, with Lacan, takes note of it: the Europe of blue quotas (in Norway), of compulsory paternity leave (in Sweden), Europe where women abort by the millions without fathers being able to say a syllable, Italy where my friends - I don't know about the girls' TV friends - would like more children and more time to spend with them, and the younger they are, the less they understand such old-lady questions. They, today's girls, their peers eat them for breakfast, they have the same job and career opportunities, they are better at school, they live their sexuality with all the freedom in the world, they receive contraceptive instruction from middle school, sometimes before puberty. We also have a paternity problem in the Church, with pastors who are ashamed of who they are, and they invite you not to have a nativity scene out of respect for others, they overturn beliefs, they teach in the seminars that the Madonna was not a virgin and that what Jesus said was not so certain because there was no recorder, recommend the use of contraception.
The problem, however, is that due to an old short circuit in the usual small pseudo-intellectual circle, they are called to speak on TV, to write editorials in newspapers, always the same exponents of a single culture, which conquered a hegemonic position in 1968 and has never left it, and never mind the collapse in ratings, never mind the increasingly limited copies of books and newspapers, never mind if reality says otherwise, never mind if they no longer represent anyone. Patience even if the vote has recently judged with extreme severity a liquid and feminized party which has made civil unions its banner, then pinning the Dat as a medal on his chest, that is, suicide, when a real man doesn't run away from pain but faces it manfully.
The reality, contrary to what the usual group of intellectuals declaims, is that we live in a society without males and without fathers, the reality is that in normal personal relationships power, as it always has been and always will be, it belongs to women, who can use it or to make men more virile and fathers, or to manipulate them, exactly like men who don't know how to love can use force and violence, which is their way of expressing their limit. Today only ideology can deny that the emancipation of women is definitively accomplished: I don't know about Cabras, but in Perugia already thirty years ago a normal girl like me, daughter of a full-time mother, at the end of high school he could go to New York without his parents, think about his future without contemplating his family and children (luckily it didn't go that way) and imagine competing in any field of knowledge, without ever having suffered any sort of discrimination, exercising his ability to walk away when he sensed that a relationship might be unhealthy or dangerous in some way.
Today it is man who is under attack, male, heterosexual, bianco, euroatlantico. He is the one to blame for everything, when instead we would need him to return to exercising his fatherhood on children who are increasingly out of control at school and outside, unable to concentrate and respect even the slightest rule. And we would also need professors with the attributes, who don't agree on tasks and questions with the kids, who do not negotiate votes, but professors like those of the previous generation, so authoritative that a glance from them was enough to plunge the class into silence, to force hours and hours of study. I heard an American university professor hope to be able to hire a woman for a professorship, of color, lesbian, so “with one I satisfied three minorities, and I can choose the others based on merit".
I know it, because I have children who study, and I can say that the level required of them today is the result of a downward leveling that comes precisely from the renunciation of the exercise of authority, which has not been replaced at all by an ability to make people fall in love with knowledge or find themselves, but simply from great quackery.
It is evident today that there is a negative prejudice against fathers, which I instead see present as never before, and a lot, much more than their fathers: an emotional closeness that certainly caused us to lose something in our normative capacity, with the complicity of mothers who are rampant and unwilling to give fathers the right space (I'm not a sociologist but I have extensive experience as a mother with children with friends, and I certainly have more right to talk about certain maitre a penser who don't attend nurseries, schools and high schools).
The ultimate target, at the macrocultural level, it is paternal authority as the matrix of reality, therefore the Father, therefore God.
SOURCE: https://costanzamiriano.com/2018/12/05/lattacco-al-padre-e-un-attacco-alla-paternita-di-dio/