Reporting of Antonello Deiana
My name is Millie Fontana, to 23 years old and I am the daughter of two lesbians, conceived through a donor. I am here with the support of all three of my parents. Questa is a testimony that, for sure, it's unheard of because no one wants to hear about the other side of the rainbow, the side not suitable for raising happy children, because they grow up with the wrong idea of ​​what a family structure should be.
Crescendo, I wanted a father… I felt inside myself that I was missing a father before I could even conceive what a father meant. I knew I loved both my moms, but I couldn't understand what was missing inside me. When I faced school I started to realize, through observation of other children and their loving bonds with their fathers, that I was missing out on something special. I was lied to all through school; I was told I didn't have a father… it was very difficult for me to assert a stable identity because of this. And my behavioral and emotional stability suffered greatly because of this.
I grew up an atheist and without any religious affiliation… but I support Christians because so far, in this debate, Christians are the only ones who ask themselves the question and follow their children. Christians are the only ones who try to shine a spotlight on stories like mine. Nobody in the LGBT lobby wants to listen to someone like me because “Love is love” Right? We don't exist for them.
Growing up I looked at myself in the mirror and thought: “Where did I get these green eyes from? Where did I get a certain aspect of my personality or certain talents that no one in my family has?”. The answer is simply “My father”! But in reality he is not just the father or the donor (as they like to call it), ma : “I have an aunt, an uncle, a grandmother and many cousins?”. These are all things that are part of me. Who were my parents to decide which parts of me it is acceptable for them to know and which they are not?
I met my father when I was 11 years and it was probably the first time in my life that I felt like a stable child. I looked into his eyes and thought: “this is my missing part”, not because I fantasized about having a father, but because I was able to put a face to who I was, been able to look at those who are equally responsible for my existence, I was able to assert my identity based on this man.
I want to talk about real “equality”. I hear about “equality” from the LGBT lobby but I wonder what their definition of equality is because, for me, equality means telling the truth, It means being respected for who you are and not just what your parents decide you should know. Equality is looking at both sides of my genetic family and understanding who I truly am. Equality does not mean that, as some studies on volunteer gay families and their children would demonstrate a positive outcome, this should apply to everyone, it is completely unrealistic.
I heard this lie from the LGBT lobby: children don't care who their family is, men and women are interchangeable. I consider this in itself to be a form of gender discrimination. Men and women offer complementary roles in raising the child and should be respected with “equality”.
E’ funny how the gay lobby talks about homophobia. I have stories of gay friends who explain to me that other gays call them homophobic because they prefer children to grow up with a father and a mother: It's totally ridiculous! I was homophobic when I looked in the mirror and wondered where my father was? I was homophobic when I begged my parents to tell me who I was? Absolutely not! I love my three parents with “equality”.
Homophobia, actually, it is simply an aversion to a certain behavior. I deeply disagree with equating homophobia and racism. I feel offended by the idea that I am considered racist for talking about these things.
Because the government is trying to push an agenda that is not based on honesty? Because in reality in every relationship between people of the same sex a third person is needed “produce” a child. Why as a society should we ignore this truth? I'm not here thanks to two women, but three people made the choice to bring me into the world. Science is being replaced by the desires of some adults. In Canada it says on the birth certificate “legal parents” no longer biological parents. The birth certificate is changing from a document of the child's history to a document of adult intent. It is the adults who decide: I take care of this child. But what information does this document provide to the child? It's not realistic. Nobody makes a certificate of intentions.
My mother asked me a question: what would have happened if my partner and I could get married? If we could have had that stable family environment like everyone else? I responded with another question: what type of therapy would the psychologists have given me for my behaviors due to the lack of a father if the absence of the father had been considered a form of discrimination? No response.
The funny thing is that Obama said that now all the other countries will have to evolve, but from what I remember, the evolution took a while’ more than a decade and also one that involved everyone. The evolution was not made with a political agenda that is also silencing part of the LGBT community. They are a small extremist minority that is pushing, from what it seems to me, to the extinction of the genre itself. I don't see “gender equality” I see the intention of getting rid of the human race altogether.
Until we as a society have a discussion that includes children like me for whom it is not okay for parents to decide which parties are (of life) that are acceptable to reveal to the child, as long as this discussion excludes all those who were raised without a father or mother, until this discussion silences and shames the children who share my positions, we shouldn't push marriage to this evolution because evolution happens gradually and I don't intend to be silenced by people who have to tell me how it's acceptable for me to feel, that I'm a bad person because I wanted a father, that maybe I didn't love my mothers enough if I wanted a father.
Thank you for supporting this cause because everyone deserves to have a voice and I will not let Christians or any person of faith be shamed just because they stand up for children… it's ridiculous!