If there is a topic related to abortion, which is never talked about enough, it is that of psychological trauma that it produces in potential fathers who often see the possibility and joy of having a child disappear, without being able to do absolutely anything to prevent its suppression. The unusual insight into the topic comes from where we would never have expected it or from Instead Concita, a daily online and paper column by Republic to which Concita De Gregorio responds, historical signature of the newspaper, to letters from the most disparate topics.
In one of these, Andrea B. talks about his experience as a failed father, following the inexorable decision, taken by his ex-girlfriend, not to keep the child they had together.
The man claims, with pain and anger, the right that his point of view as a father can have a weight in such a tragic and definitive choice made on what is also, to all intents and purposes, his son. Also trust confusion and suffering at the thought of her baby going to die, without being able to do anything: «I remember that the day before the termination of the pregnancy I placed my ear on C's belly., I imagined feeling the heartbeat of that infinitesimally small being, I filled my lungs with air, inhaling deeply as if to try to transmigrate it inside me, to continue to make him grow and then I cried for that son who the next day would return to that oblivion from which he came». He asks, In the end, out loud that the law 194 be modified in order to also protect the father of the unborn child and his thoughts, as, he claims, the psychological and emotional consequences of abortion, they often affect not only women but also men.
Unfortunately, post-abortion trauma seen and experienced from the male point of view, as well as that experienced by the woman, he was so taken lightly, how she was taken lightly, in our society, the father figure, often alienated from its educational and social functions, than a group of jurists, journalists, doctors and university professors came to sign a press release in which one asks aloud, to political representatives and civil society who review the legal rules that tend to remove fathers from the lives of their children, with particular reference to unborn children.
The statement clearly states that «of great emotional significance, and symbolic, it is the father's position towards the procreated son. The practice currently in force deprives the father of any responsibility in the reproductive process. A paradoxical situation, unfair from an emotional point of view, unfounded from a biological and anthropological point of view, devastating on a symbolic level. For the good of the children, and of society, it is necessary that the father is allowed to assume the responsibilities that fall to him as co-author of the reproductive process. The news cases that present the desperation of fathers, that they want, taking all responsibility, the child that the mother decided to abort, they are just the tip of the iceberg of the man-father's mourning, expelled from the natural reproduction process of which he is the promoter. It is necessary to start a collective reflection that truly equalizes the dignity of women and men in procreation, to guarantee life, of family and society".
In short, if man and woman really have equal dignity as people, as guaranteed by right by our Constitution, all’art. 3, then it follows that they should have equal rights even as parents and, in such a fatal and definitive decision, both must be able to play their rightful role.
Manuela Antonacci
source: https://www.notizieprovita.it/notizie-dallitalia/il-trauma-post-aborto-la-sofferenza-dei-padri-che-nessuno-conosce/
In matriarchal society, US-style, installed in Italy since the post-war period, fathers are secondary figures and as such despised. In fact, Italian society, deprived of paternal support, as is the American one par excellence, sees the rise of violence without restraint and without reason. E’ the violence of feeling, the one transmitted by the female side that repudiates the rules and only appreciates the feeling. But feeling without rules is pure madness because, disconnected from reality, analyzed by male logic, it becomes total freedom to feel what you want. This freedom detached from the rules produces senseless violence. In fact, what is defined as violence but has its reason for being in the considered reaction is nothing other than “forza”. But these are times in which every act of force is judged to be violence by female society which does not allow reasoned reactivity with a precise purpose. Lots of books, among which those of Risè stand out, they analyze this situation of matriarchy in Italy very well and have been denouncing for years the violent drift that is taking place among generations of young people who have lacked a father figure. This article is just a cry that will soon be drowned out by the continuous rantings of the abnormal society, feminine in nature. In Italy the “great Mediterranean mother”, archetype of infernal goddess, has been winning for decades !